Good and Bad (Conflict)

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Good and Bad (Conflict)
kolapo olatunde, Member, Student (University), Nigeria

Conflict is a necessary part of daily life, and we all have to deal with it. HOW we deal with it matters.
Some tools work just as effectively in our families and communities as they do in situations of extreme violence and civil war. They also work within ourselves, which is where peace begins.

Get perspective

Speak person to person

Really listen

Give a voice to the feelings

Work together to identify common ground

Show respect

Support yourself

The above might sound or look like good for a personal conflict
So here are some others, that can be of help to solve other's conflict

Put any strong emotions to one side - temporarily.

Step outside of the moment and take a helicopter view.

Make a distinction between the principle at stake, and the practical issue.

Get a sense of how important the practical issue is or you and its actual, practical effect on your life.

Identify a relationship between the principle and a sense of feeling ‘wronged’ or personal injury that usually lies beneath the principle.

Peer into the future, picture the consequences of the conflict escalating.

Imagine the lasting damage it could do in your life and the lives of those involved.

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