Fear of Eye Communication

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Fear of Eye Communication
Ramesh Velpula
How can I overcome the fear of eye communication
I am person of calm going, but when I am communicating with some persons, I am unable to see them directly to their eyes, which is important in good communication.
But though I know this I'm getting anxious. How can I overcome it?

Try it Out, Use a Mirror
Pratapsingh Randhawa, Member
Face your fear and your fear will move away..
Or communicate with yourself in mirror and learn to make eye contact with yourself, probably you don't wish to see yourself in action and want to avoid people reaction..

Eye Communication
Rachael Luafalealo, Member
I understand your fear because I too had the same fear which I believe was contributed to my upbringing. Anyway, I guess I focused more on the importance of eye communication that I started to look just above the eyebrows/forehead area and sometimes the nose and found that this helped me eventually connect directly eye-to-eye and it didn't feel uncomfortable. Hope this helps.

Sometimes Minimizing Eye Contact can Work
Dave Singleton, Member
Sometimes there is a cultural component that can influence the way we communicate via eye contact.
For example, many Hispanic cultures consider it disrespectful to look an authority figure in the eyes.
I am not familiar with your culture and its nuances; that is better answered by someone else. What I can say is that at times I also find myself uncomfortable with someone and eye contact may not enhance my sense of security.
In those moments I try to quickly analyze what is wrong and go with a gut feeling. I have discovered that when I am calm and secure the presence of an insecure, ill-at-ease person is best handled by minimizing my contact and managing my exposure. In other words, beat a retreat to higher ground!


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