Careful with Teaching "You Can do All…"
Moises Perez Cosgaya, CxO / Board, Mexico, Member
As a parent, partner, as older brothers, as teachers, tutors, mentors, leaders, managers, and generally any role in which we are responsible for the welfare of someone else (at least in some area of your life), we endeavor to convey the certainty she can do and will do all that is proposed, we will say and do everything possible to convey that sense of power to give her the assurance that things will be possible for her.
Generally we tell our loved ones, employees or followers phrases like "you can", "of course you can," "yes you will succeed", "you do not give up" without reflecting on actions that our words will cause.
However, the power and ability to do something must always be framed in moral values, circumstances, moments and times that prevent self destruction and destruction of others. The physical, emotional and spiritual integrity of the person and those around her should have first priority.
In other words, it is positive and praiseworthy that we plant in that person the idea that she can do anything, however it is also necessary to explain to her that she should make sure that whatever we do, we do not harm anyone at any time or under any circumstances.
THE POSSIBILITY TO GET HELP
Often we also forget to accompany "You can" sentences with the limits to self-knowledge. If each of us does not know and accept their own abilities, interests, knowledge, experiences, and talents it will be difficult to know when it will be necessary to ask for help, feeling tired or ask for vacation.
⇒If you do not explain to your family and significant others that is important to ask for help, you're not teaching them teamwork or surround themselves with people that complement their skills, talents and knowledge.
⇒If you do not tell them they can feel tired, they risk being abused in their jobs and imposes them to physical fatigue. You should explain that they may feel tired and can get help from other people when they’re suffering a constant state of stress, or are tired.