Why we Accept Questionable Advisors
Jaap de Jonge, Editor, Netherlands
There could be at least two more reasons why explaining how you suffered for a misdeed which you committed helps to make others accept and trust you as an advisor:
1. Telling people something personal (about yourself) makes them trust you. We trust people who tell something personal about themselves. That is why so many sales people will tell you the car they are selling belonged to their grandmother of that they drive a car like that themselves. And this is exploited in an even more shameful way by the youtube ladies who show you the cosmetic products "they use and like themselves", but are actually paid by the cosmetics companies. See also the knowledge center on the Johari Window for further explanation of the mechanisms behind this.
2. The second reason could be that telling about how you suffered as a consequence of a misdeed makes you credible and could be considered as proof that you are experienced and have actually "been there". You are not a theoretical expert, but a practical one.