Answers to Habit 1: Be Proactive
Gary Wong, Consultant, Canada
Answer to Question 1:
Reactive people focus their efforts on the weakness of other people, the problems in the environment, and ￼circumstances over which they have no control. When their Circle of Influence is larger than their Circle of Concern, they don't realize nor do they care how their behaviour impacts others. This is what myopic means - taking a narrow view and being shortsighted.
An example is a movie or rock star idolized by fans. A star displaying boorish behaviour can inadvertently influence fans to also behave badly. The star however, does not accept any responsibility: "Don't blame me if they want to act that way. I didn't tell them to follow me. It's their own fault."
Answer to Question 2:
I don't dispute your definition but it's not the one that we use in the 7 Habits. Our situation is that something has happened (stimulus) requiring some sort of response. A reactive person will immediately blurt out the first thing that comes to mind and it's typically negative and hurtful. A proactive person recognizes there is a space between Stimulus and Response.
The proactive person uses this space to stop
to think, challenge
any reactive thoughts, and choose
a response that positively influences.