How to Get Help from Someone Else?

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How to Get Help from Someone Else?
Roland van der Leede, Member
Most people are a bit reluctant to ask for help, especially in the work environment. We feel uncertain, are afraid to be rejected, and fear for diminished status.
Yet Grant argues that asking help is an important skill in modern organizations and recommends to get over your reluctance to ask for assistance.

He recommends the following interesting psychological approach, using 4 clues to make the helper feel good about him/herself for helping you:
1. Make the helper realize you need help. Say: "I have a problem and need your help".
2. Make the helper believe that you want help. Make the helper see you want help from her and don't want to go it alone.
3. Make the helper take responsibility for helping. So you'd better ask her personal and in private.
4. Ensure the helper is actually able to provide the help you need. Be specific about what you need. She must have the skills / resources.
Source: Heidi Grant, "How to Get the help you Need: People are Surprisingly Willing to Give Support - If you Ask for It in the Right Way", HBR May-Jun 2018, pp.142-145 24-7-2018



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