Use a Short Hat Sequence, possibly two
Gary Wong, Consultant, Canada, SIG Leader
Joe's dilemma is accentuated because he really is dealing with 2 decisions: Should I remain in the current job? Should I accept the offer?
If I only had a few minutes left with Joe, I would suggest the following:
1. Start by answering the first question.
2. Run twice through a short hat sequence: Blue>Yellow>Black>White>Blue.
3. Clearly understand what are your real Needs vs. "nice-to-have" Wants.
4. If you think there is value in pursuing the offer, then answer the second question.
I'd also tell Joe to use a timer and remain in the hat until time is up. If a thought pops up in your mind that's under a different hat, let it go. Don't jump to that hat. But if you're still entering and time runs out, extend the time and finish. Then move to the next hat. Use the Red Hat sparingly in order to suppress emotions that can lead to an irrational decision.
Some prompt questions for Joe to think about under each hat:
Blue Hat: Should I remain in the current job?
What are the positive aspects of remaining in the current job - what do I get now?
What are the benefits professionally (career, reputation, contacts)
What are the benefits personally (family, friends)
What will I keep or gain economically? Emotionally? Mentally? Spiritually in terms of continuing to make a contribution?
What are the negative aspects of remaining in the current job - what will I miss out?
What might hurt me professionally if I stay?
What are the personal downsides of keeping the status quo?
What half-truths am I making that I need to confirm?
Where do I have gaps in what I know and don't know?
Create action plan (What/Who/Where/When) to obtain the necessary information (3 mins).
Get the information and adjust the pros and cons. (whatever time it takes).
Summarize how well my needs are currently being met and if I really need something more.
This is a No / No-Go decision point for Joe. If he wishes to pursue, he can repeat the short hat sequence with some modifications.
Blue Hat: Should I accept the offer?
What are the positive wins of accepting the offer?
How will accepting enhance my career? My professional status?
How will accepting improve my role as a husband? A father? Relatives? A close friend?
How will I prosper economically? Emotionally? Mentally? Spiritually in terms of making a difference in a new company?
What are the negative consequences of accepting the offer?
What new risks will I be facing that could harm me professionally?
What adverse impacts will accepting the job have on my family? On my personal activities that I enjoy doing?
What assumptions am I making that I need to confirm?
What information am I missing?
Because changing jobs impacts others, who do I need to involve to get their perspectives - wife, children, close friends?
Set up a Parallel Thinking exercise and run it with those who choose to participate.
Summarize if yours and the needs of others can be better met by accepting the offer.