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Gary Wong, Consultant, Canada
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We've all been in arguments, such as when one person wants to proceed with something, but the other wants to stop.
A resolution requires empathic listening, the ability to put yourself in the "other person's shoes" and view an issue from the other's perspective.
Here's how a Six Thinking Hats Short Sequence can be used for 2 persons / parties. The hat sequence is: blue > yellow > black > red > blue.
1. Blue hat: let's agree together to look at the pros and cons of the options (in this example, proceeding and stopping.)
2. Yellow hat: now let's both list the benefits of each option. Listen to each other and work to build a list together.
3. Black hat: now let's both list the risks/faults of each option. Again listen and work together.
4. Red hat: check for changes in feelings. Listen for clues like: "oh, now I understand where you're coming from... Gosh, I never thought about that..." are people emotionally willing to have a healthy discussion?
5. Blue hat: decide on next steps. (...) Read more? Sign up for free
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Jacob Andrews, Entrepreneur, United Arab Emirates
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