Be Cautious with Shown Behaviour
We should avoid being caught up too much with the behavior of people, assuming that the behavior of persons represents their true character. Why?
- This makes people mask their character.
- If we allow for that, demanding only good/acceptable behavior, this in turn prevents a proper relationship to blossom, hinders team building processes, and carries the possibility of breach of trust, politicking etc.
Is it possible to make people (your personnel) stick to their character with integrity?
Yes, just like we also ask from people to be non-judgmental and not to base decisions on opinions or gut feeling, we can also expect acceptable behavior from them and to be a person of integrity. This looks pretty simple as long as people are busy working. But it can become a problem when people become self conscious and also conscious of others' behavior to the extent of reflecting on it. Mostly this happens in work environment with certain intangibles, like getting hurt, use of foul language and the like.
In the process of building a team one should not ignore these intangibles. The line which has to be drawn cannot be straight, and also not curved, (allowing gerrymandering and giving false impressions). We should apply fairness.