Obstacles to Active Listening
The main obstacle to active listening, in my view, is often the lack of willingness to listen
. It is not a simple issue of skills.
From time to time, we jump to conclusions before listening to what others are to saying, with the belief that we already know what they are to say, and that we know everything.
In the end, the real losers are those who have the arrogance not to listen.
It has been proven that, for effective management, and for successful handling of issues, we need to know not only what we know, but more importantly what we do not know.
Listening Without Judgement
When we talk about listening, we have to remember one more key element, listen without judgement. This is where most people fail when they are listening, often times we listen to others because we want to prepare ourselves to give them our best advice.
What I've learned throughout the years is that sometimes people just want you to hear what they have to say, they are not interested in help or feedback, they just want someone to listen to them.
This is very difficult for most people, we tend to want to help others, without realizing that help can be as simple as just being there for the person.
If you can't listen without judging, you are really not listening at all.